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“Making a snapshot and a statment of all that is you, and all that you love and cherish, a permanent time capsule of you”.
After the terrorist attacks on 9/11 and 7/7, and my father's dementia, I started thinking about how brief the time that we have to live our lives, and about how many people never get the chance to say what they want to say to their loved ones and their family before sometimes they are taken away from us prematurely, and those things they wanted to say are left unsaid and those things that they wanted to do are left undone.
I got to thinking about those people who left their homes on the morning of those two days who fully intended to do things with or say things to their loved ones but were going to do it later. I was thinking about how some people would have left their homes in the middle of an argument with their loved ones, they may not have even said "goodbye" or "I love you" before they slammed that door. I thought of all of the children that may have shouted "I hate you" or "I don't love you" to their mother or father, and that would have been the last thing they got to say to their mother or father.
With my father who had dementia, like many other older people, you watch the confusion, the anger, and the frustration of the person suffering, and then you see the people all around them who love and care for them, become, bitter and angry and frustrated, yet still love them so much. It is like watching people checking out of a hotel one by one but still leaving the lights on in the rooms, from the outside the hotel looks OK but there is less and less going on inside.
So many things I wanted to talk about with my father still, so many things I wanted to learn from him that I would never learn now. I know that there were probably many things that he would have wanted to talk to me about but his mind and all his memories were stolen from us. I am lucky because I knew he was proud of me and proud of what I had done with my life, even if he did not know who I was eventually.
I read an article about a year ago now about a digital artist (a photographer, a video photographer, and an artist), who was employed by a hospice to talk to people who might want to say things to their loved ones, that perhaps, they could not say directly to their loved ones, whether because of the upbringing of that person, or just that they found it difficult to communicate their feelings, or because of family history. As the digital artist spoke to the people and asked them questions about their lives she got some touching and meaningful answers. One man that she interviewed had built up a very successful business empire and had received many awards and business prizes but when he was asked the question "what do you think is your biggest success and achievement in your life?", his reply, "my family", surprised and touched the heart of the interviewer because all the business empire and the prizes and awards he had earned because he wanted to provide the absolute best for his family and give them the opportunities that he had never received in his life, and that he was so proud of them but he could never manage to say it to them. When his family heard the recording they were touched and grateful that they had the opportunity to hear how proud he was of them and what he had done for them.
This is why I am here now because I want to help people to leave a legacy of love and reassurance for their family, friends, and loved ones, before it is too late to leave things not said and things not done, and things unresolved. To say that last "I love you", and leave something that will say the important things that you may not get the opportunity to because of many reasons.
I can create a snapshot of what you would like to say but never actually say it things that might be just difficult or would be embarrassing to say, for you. Not that those things are not in your head but you never get to the point where you can say them, yet if you were taken away from those people that you love suddenly through illness or a sudden event, that you would like to say to tell them how much you love them, how proud you are of them, and, that everything will really be ok.
Now you know that anyone can do this on YouTube or any of the video sharing sites but I can help you to create exactly what you want to create, help with the camera you need or the recorder that you want to record your words with, what things you would like to say, if you are not sure about what you would like say or how you would like to say it, I can help you in person or on the telephone, or send you a guide, which will tell you every step to go through and you can use the special format of my guide to create your own personalised legacy of you thoughts and feelings that you cannot quite get round to saying directly.